I went to coffee with a few of my girlfriends today to catch up. It had been quite some time since we all got together and shared a little gossip. 🙂
One of my friends became an empty nester a few months ago, after her son moved out after finding a job in Minnesota. She has been having a difficult time dealing with the new home situation and was asking me how I did it.
There is no doubt it is difficult but finding happiness and inner strength are the first steps to loving the new empty nest.
Like I have said before, the first couple months are the most trying but once you discover how to handle the change it is like a breath of fresh air. I found it really helpful to make sure I remembered that I was never actually alone, my kids were a phone call away, I had my loving husband, and even then I always had myself. I rediscovered how wonderful and exciting I actually am.
It might sound a little conceded, spending so much “me time” but it is the perfect time to do it; there is no one you need to tend to. Spending time alone is a great way to rediscover your interests and old hobbies. It might seem daunting spending time alone and letting your mind wonder, but occupy yourself with a book or something that interests you.
“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”- Oscar Wilde
I used my new found free time to appreciate the silence, read as many books as I could, Pinterest binge, found a new hobby and career, and dream about the possibilities to do with my free time. By spending time actually doing things I enjoyed and finding new ways to enjoy life I became an even happier person and a better mother. My kids have noticed my new ambition and really help me thrive in my new lifestyle.
I know from firsthand experience that becoming an empty nester is hard, but everything gets better in time. When I found new hobbies and began a new health journey my mindset completely changed. When the going gets tough, the tough get going!
Just like I told my friend I will tell you, YOU CAN DO IT! 🙂 I believe in all of you!
Until Next Time,
Nancy
Fancy Free Nancy 