Love Your Empty Nest

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I went to coffee with a few of my girlfriends today to catch up.  It had been quite some time since we all got together and shared a little gossip.  🙂

One of my friends became an empty nester a few months ago, after her son moved out after finding a job in Minnesota.  She has been having a difficult time dealing with the new home situation and was asking me how I did it.

There is no doubt it is difficult but finding happiness and inner strength are the first steps to loving the new empty nest.

Like I have said before, the first couple months are the most trying but once you discover how to handle the change it is like a breath of fresh air.  I found it really helpful to make sure I remembered that I was never actually alone, my kids were a phone call away, I had my loving husband, and even then I always had myself.  I rediscovered how wonderful and exciting I actually am.

It might sound a little conceded, spending so much “me time” but it is the perfect time to do it; there is no one you need to tend to.  Spending time alone is a great way to rediscover your interests and old hobbies.  It might seem daunting spending time alone and letting your mind wonder, but occupy yourself with a book or something that interests you.

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“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone.  You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”- Oscar Wilde

I used my new found free time to appreciate the silence, read as many books as I could, Pinterest binge, found a new hobby and career, and dream about the possibilities to do with my free time.  By spending time actually doing things I enjoyed and finding new ways to enjoy life I became an even happier person and a better mother.  My kids have noticed my new ambition and really help me thrive in my new lifestyle.

mama hen never empty nest syndromeI know from firsthand experience that becoming an empty nester is hard, but everything gets better in time.  When I found new hobbies and began a new health journey my mindset completely changed.  When the going gets tough, the tough get going!

Just like I told my friend I will tell you, YOU CAN DO IT! 🙂 I believe in all of you!

Until Next Time,

Nancy

 

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